Cheating on Your Wife

Before you learn the unbreakable rules for cheating, you need to take a clear look at the pros and cons of infidelity. The costs (and benefits) of cheating is a decision that you are about to make (or have already made) and include financial, emotional, sexual and even medical.

You’ll discover the clear rules for how to cheat on your wife or husband and NOT get caught. You will learn exact methods that thousands of ‘successful’ cheaters have used to avoid detection and live the intriguing double life of infidelity. The rules will give you a squeaky clean record that is as untraceable as a CIA agent’s resume. You’ll read the details on how to avoid the obvious mistakes and learn some underground methods for the elimination of your double life, 100% of the evidence, 100% of the time. You’ll anticipate the moves and suspicions of your spouse and cleverly lay out credible excuses and reasons for your change in actions, attitude or behaviors.

None of these rules will work.

To understand the TRUTH, click here and read on…

NEW Hot Spots for Your Hot Wife

You have favorite parts of your wife’s body that you most frequently like to explore, but there is more to her than a vagina, breasts and butt. The largest amount of nerve endings for sexual stimulation may be concentrated in those areas, but she has nerve endings everywhere and the more you are able to treat her ENTIRE body like a temple, the less you’ll be accused of being a “pig with a one track mind.” Incorporating a variety of touching into these places during foreplay and sex, or just giving her some pleasure after a hard day, will definitely earn you some brownie points. Besides, just because you KNOW what makes her click doesn’t mean you can’t find/create/invent NEW ways to stimulate her body and soul!

Hair

Going to the salon or spa is like a mini-vacation for most women. Treat your wife to a spa treatment as often as you can. The process of wash, cut, color, and styling can actually be quite a stress reliever. My wife REALLY loves to have her scalp massaged. Ask anyone who goes to the salon what their favorite part is and they’ll tell you the shampooing! Running your hands gently through her hair is a surefire way to send tingles down her spine. After you massage her scalp a bit, let your fingers massage circles from her temples to the nape of her neck and gently blow in her ear…hmmm….

Nape of her neck

Japanese culture regards the nape of the neck as THE most sensual part of a woman’s body. Don’t believe me? Take a look at 100 art pieces and you’ll find over half of the images of woman reveal the back of her neck. Once you get to the nape of her neck, lightly kiss it followed by a gentle neck rub. The nape of the neck is often neglected in favor of more obvious pleasure centers, but never underestimate the power of gentle touches and kisses from her hairline to her shoulders.

Small of her back

The best way to guide your woman through a crowd is to place your hand against the small of her back. This small gesture shows that you feel protective of her without being too pushy like an arm around the shoulder might be. Touching and holding the small of her back gives her support, comfort and a feeling of protection. Next time you are engaged in foreplay, use that feeling of security to your advantage by spending a few moments there with your hands, mouth and fingers.

Behind her knees

This area is one that most men don’t think of when trying to stimulate a woman, but it is, in fact, quite sensitive. Gently caressing the back of the knee under her skirt while the two of you are in a public place will make her ready to get busy once you get home. Don’t forget to pay some more attention to this special spot once you’re alone too. Giving erotic massages to your wife is foreplay 101, and the more you focus on all the forgotten parts of her body, the more she will realize you love ALL of her! Showing her that love non-sexually AND sexually is important to the relationship you are building and growing. My book was created out of necessity to re-charge my 21 year marriage that was on the brink of disaster. It’s more than a book, it’s a rescue tool for ANY relationship.

Palms of her hands

Ditto for massaging hands. With more women working on keyboards, holding children and doing more physical labor than most men, focusing on her hands is a great start. People often use their hands as tools to please their partners, but rarely do they consider the pleasure potential of stimulating the hands themselves. The palm of a woman’s hand is an innocuous spot to focus a little attention on without making people around you uncomfortable. Tracing your finger along her palm will give her delightful shivers and make you appear sensitive and attentive.

Earlobes

Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the earlobes of your woman will up the bliss factor for her. These delicate, soft lobes are very sensitive and most women thoroughly enjoy the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. Whispering sweet nothings into her ear, or naughty somethings can send her into unimaginable anticipation depending on what you say and when. If you aren’t too poetic, focus on the nibbling, blowing and kissing. Don’t think that jamming your tongue inside her ear is sexy or romantic. Slow, soft, steady and subtle are the keywords here.

Feet

A GOOD foot massage to help her relax, is often better than a back massage especially if she is on her feet all day. Use some massage oil or lotion to make the experience more pleasurable (and possibly reduce foot odor). Don’t forget to pay some attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Bending the toes back and forth is a great start. My wife really enjoys it when I massage her individual “piggies” one by one, rolling my fingers around each of her toes. If she is ticklish, be nice!

Inner thighs

Touching her inner thighs and NOT going into her vagina will make for an excellent tease that is sure to get excited. Kiss the insides of her thighs, getting excruciatingly close to her ultimate pleasure spot, and then pull back before going all the way. If you can’t resist and find yourself on her vagina while doing this, there are no rules that say you can’t go back to her thighs midstream. In fact, the teasing involved with STOPPING oral sex extends the anticipation of the orgasm and strengthens the inevitable rush of euphoria.

Conclusion

Her entire body is covered with nerve endings that could be stimulated, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have some places that simply don’t do anything for her. Some women can’t stand to have their wrists, face or other areas touched. Exploration with permission is the plan here, buddy. As you explore, you’ll learn which places your touch has the best effect on and which you should avoid.

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Top 10 Things Women LOVE To Hear

"What did you say?"

One of my favorite online magazines is AskMen. Just as we all enjoy Glamour for the pictures, AskMen always has great content, tips and advice for single and married guys.  Below are some nuggets of wisdom from that online magazine that bears repeating. Remember when using these tools that SINCERITY is more important than volume! Only sincere compliments work, so be factual and be romantic! Below are 10 things that you can always use to make YOUR life better and your relationship smoother…

Number 10 “How was your day?” When you ask her how her day went, her interpretation is that you are thoughtful and eager to know about her 9-to-5 routine. Be warned though: This question gives her license to talk at length about all the little dramas that occurred throughout her day. So be ready to set aside some time to listen to her stories.

Why it makes you look good: To her, it’s the thought that counts. Asking about her day shows that you’re receptive, interested and open to listening to her. You’re giving her an outlet to vent and acting as her confidante. Sure, you might have to listen longer than you want to, but once she’s done talking shop, she’ll be talking about you.

Number 9 “How do you feel about [anything]?” Asking this question tells your lady that you’re genuinely concerned about her feelings. And, as both Oprah and Dr. Phil have proven beyond a shadow of a doubt, women love to express their feelings on every topic imaginable. Know, however, that you’re setting yourself up for a lengthy and deep conversation about whatever the topic may be. So don’t ask this if you’re planning to watch a game that night.

Why it makes you look good: It’s all about showing the compassionate side. Once she understands that you’re devoting attention to her it will make all her feelings about you that much more intense. So, if you were just kind of attractive before, you’ll become a stud in her eyes. If you were a friend before, now she’ll want more. Get the picture?

Number 8 “You’re really smart.” By acknowledging her intelligence, you’re communicating that you recognize her brains, as well as her figure. This makes a woman feel appreciated for all her assets, not just the parts that fit in a thong or a bra. It’s a mark of respect from her man.

Why it makes you look good: First off, she’ll appreciate that you are capable of thinking above the waistline. Women love a cordial man, and there’s no better way for you to show off your gentlemanly qualities than to praise and distinguish her smart.

Number 7 “I can’t believe how sexy you look!” Straight up, this tells her that you find her attractive, and to a lesser extent, that you want some. But, if you’re in a relationship, she’ll hear more than that — namely, that you’re still lustfully appreciating her fine ass. No woman could fail to be flattered by that compliment.

Why it makes you look good: This line is particularly effective in long-term relationships, as you’re assuring your woman that she’s still hot. In return, this makes her want to share her hotness with you. Any questions? Didn’t think so.

Number 6 “You’re prettier than your girlfriends.” Putting her on a pedestal among her peers gives her an ego boost that she can secretly lord over her gal pals. It’s high praise in the world of women, and will score you some big flattery points.

Why it makes you look good: Aside from making her feel aesthetically superior to other women, this little remark will make her cognizant of how much you value her. She’ll also feel less threatened by her friends when they are around you. She’ll feel good about herself and consequently will want to reward your good taste. There is a potential flip side, however: the jealous partner may take this only as evidence that you’re checking out her friends.

Number 5 “You’re great in bed.” Simply put, this line makes her feel like a goddess. Hearing it suggests that her sexuality has been elevated in your eyes and makes her feel like she really knows how to satisfy her man. It could also help to knock away any inhibitions she might have in the bedroom.

Why it makes you look good: Praising her performance indicates that for you, sex isn’t just about getting your rocks off. You appreciate every aspect of the experience itself, particularly the extra efforts she puts towards it. (Blogger’s Note: For more tips on what women REALLY want, check out this site. Keep in mind the content was written by my wife AND myself, but the context is male oriented)

Number 4 “I want to spend my life with you.” This is a heavy line; it’s not many degrees away from proposing to her. So be prepared for the consequences if you utter it. But also keep in mind that risk often carries reward — once you tell her this she’ll be doing mental backflips of joy. Other phrases that work in a similar vein but are less committal are, “Only you can make me so happy,” and, “I wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.”

Why it makes you look good: All women love to hear a formal expression of enduring commitment from their man. Brother, to her, you’ll practically receive a permanent halo after this.

Number 3 “You’re my best friend.” You’re telling her how you feel above and beyond a sexual context. It means you’ve placed value upon your friendship and want to do things with her that other men may not have had an interest in. She’ll feel overpoweringly connected to you after you say this.

Why it makes you look good: These words change you from being just the guy she’s doing to the guy she is doing things with, too. It rockets you to the top of the suitor list because you’ve openly declared the F-word: friendship.

Number 2 “You’ll make a great mother.” Most women look forward to having babies one day. Most also agonize over whether they will do a good job of it. By saying this you affirm to her that she’ll be a success. Furthermore, you satisfy her internal need to be pacified on the subject. Coming from her man, these words will make her the happiest she can be.

Why it makes you look good: Indirectly, you just confirmed to your woman that you’re thinking about making babies with her. Obviously, this is great music to her ears. From this point onwards, she’ll be ever more receptive to your advances.

Number 1 “You make my life complete.” This tells her that she’s the only one for you. All women want to hear this line from their men. It says that you’ve accepted her completely and that she has become an essential, indispensable ingredient in your life. That’s an unbelievably gratifying thought to your woman — she’ll be smiling for days.

Why it makes you look good: This basically says that you need her in your life, and that you couldn’t live without her. Women fall head over heels for this kind of stuff. honorable mention “I love you.” The “three little words” that all the chick flicks place so much importance on can have a serious impact. If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s good to say this every now and then.

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Hope for Your Marriage

It’s not often that I re-post another article…after all, this is MY blog and advice and commentary about my 21 years of marriage. You’ve read about how love and sex is a comedy, tragedy and love story all in one. However, after reading Alisa’s post (http://projecthappilyeverafter.com) I can tell you that she has the “right stuff” when it comes to communication and relationships. She is a gifted author and definitely worth the read.

YOUR relationship has the potential to become whatever you want it to be!

Your DECISION can be much more important than your history or circumstances. Take charge of what you really want and just decide to stay married, act married, and become the man of her dreams. After YOU take charge of that decision, chances are VERY high that she will become the MILF of your dreams and the relationship everyone envies. Here is Alisa’s most recent post, below:

Many people ask me how I found the motivation to work on my marriage when so much was going wrong. Most of the people who ask this are entrenched in the Planning The Funeral stage of marital discontent—what I sometimes refer to as mile 20 of the marriage marathon. Their sex life is either non-existent or unfulfilling. They don’t have conversations. When they go out to dinner together, there’s silence. When they do talk, they fight. And when they fight, the rarely if ever reach a resolution.

As a result, they console themselves by imagining what their lives would be like if their partners would conveniently drop dead.

Yeah, I’ve been there.

So how did I find the courage to work on my marriage when everything seemed so hopeless?

The courage came from a deep place. It was an act of faith. It will be an act of faith for you, too. In the beginning, you won’t know for sure whether or not your marriage project will work. So you must decide to work on your marriage for reasons that go beyond the finish line. You do it for your self, because:

1.    You need to know—without a doubt—that your marriage is or is not worth saving. The only way to know for sure? Try to save your marriage and see if you make any improvement. At the beginning of your marriage project, rate your marriage on a scale of 1 (I wish he would just drop dead) to 10 (I am so glad I married him!) Four months later, rate it again. If your rating went up? Your marriage has potential. If it stayed the same or went down? It’s probably not worth saving. Sure, you’d rather have the ease of posing the Is My Marriage Worth Saving? to a Magic 8 Ball, but I’m pretty sure my method—while more time-consuming—is much more reliable. It allows you to walk away from your marriage (if it comes to that) without a shred of guilt, because you tried everything and everything did not work.

2.    You need to work on you. Your bad marriage is not entirely your spouse’s fault. You are a part of the problem. A bad marriage is caused by the chemistry between two people. One person doesn’t ask for what she wants, which allows the other person to get away with whatever he wants. One person is controlling, which allows the other person to never stick her neck out and make a decision. Usually, the thing about your partner that you most hate is the thing that will make you feel most incomplete if you split up. Working on your marriage will force you to work on yourself, so you’ll become more assertive, learn how to communicate, evolve into a better listener, and more. So even if you do eventually split up, you’ll still be better off, because you’ll be a more complete person.

But you need more than that, right? You want a guarantee. You want to know that it will work. I just can’t give you that. What I can tell you is this: Not a day goes by that I don’t feel downright grateful that my husband is still in my life. Slightly more than two years ago? Not a day went by that I didn’t think about how much better off I would be if my husband were no longer in my life.

Today, when I’m irritated with my husband, I tell him. I’ve learned how to talk about such issues in a way that does not make him defensive, and he’s learned how to listen and respond. Whenever something bothers me about my marriage, I’ve learned to see if as a problem, one that my husband and I can solve together.

I’ve also learned to recognize grumpiness for what it is: grumpiness. I’m not as quick to go to the He Doesn’t Love Me Place when my husband is having a hunger emergency and accidentally bites my head off because I can’t seem to find the restaurant we’re looking for. No, I’m much more likely to think, “That big brat is having a hunger emergency. I better find the restaurant before he completely implodes.” And once he’s shoveled some food into himself, I say, “Are you still mad at me?” He says, “God no. I’m so sorry” and that’s that.

My husband makes my latte for me every morning, not because I can’t make one for myself, but because he knows I like it when he makes my latte. It makes me feel loved. And I make sure to Atta Boy him whenever he does something around the house for the same reason.

Our sex life? My husband recently told me that he’d like to do it every other day. As he said it, though, he acknowledged that he didn’t think it was really possible. And instead of feeling put upon, I thought, “I would really love to make that wish come true, because I really do love this guy.” And this week? I have. He’s floored. I’m not the wife he knows, but he certainly likes the new me.

Your marriage might get to this place some day, too. It won’t happen overnight. It won’t happen linearly, either. You’ll continually take two steps forward and one step back. But if you continue to grow and change together (your partner has to be willing to work at it, too), you can get to this place, too.

-Alisa Bowman
http://projecthappilyeverafter.com

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Sex & Weather…How Thunderstorms Made Her Horny

Guys, there are scientific AND romantic reasons you can have BETTER sex whenever you want! A thunderstorm just blew through our area and my wife and I opened up the patio doors, let the air in (and a little rain) and simply banged our brains out!

I am over 40 (so is she) and we are having more sex than most newlywed 20-something year olds. We didn’t always have this passion, but after we almost divorced, we took a few simple, well thought out, and specific steps to increase our sex, passion, and lust for each other. For details, click here.

The thunderstorm did a few things:

1. The ionization of the atmosphere makes the air fresh, clean, and crisp. Not that the smell of sex is bad, its just that we all know how clear the air is after a thunderstorm. It revitalizes your senses and heightens your pleasure!

2. The lightning, thunder and rain showers all add additional atmosphere to our session. We even adjusted our rythmn to the thunderclaps! (sort of like movin’ to the sound of music only different) When we saw the lightning, we added and extra push and tried to time it to the 3-5 second delay of the thunder…pretty funny, really.

3. Romance…ah after the storms passed and we were left with the gentle rain shower, our lovemaking became more gentle and soft. I slowed down considerably and we focused on each and every nerve ending in our body. By focusing on each other our rythmn became totally in sync and we climaxed easily together.

The bottom line is, while most people are running around rolling up their windows and checking the gutters, we took advantage of the malestrom and used the power of the weather to support and encourge the power of our sexual appetite. Go for it! For more tips, ideas, commentary visit www.makeyourwifehot.com today!

Use Your Headboard Like Runner’s Blocks

Sometimes the smallest thing can make the BIGGEST difference. Last night as I pounded my wife, I did a 180 degree turn, put my feet on the headboard and pounded her so hard she screamed in pain.

This is very different from the normal position that gave her a headache when, during intercourse, she banged HER head on the headboard and nearly had a concussion.

It is not technically in the Kama Sutra manual, but using your headboard (or just the wall, Felix!) to gain some extra traction can make your Johnson seem an extra inch or two in length. You’ll probably have to re-adjust each other a few inches towards the wall every so often, as the sliding affect will normally push you both away from the traction you achieve by this technique.

For an extra bit of support, try a pillow under her ass during this method. It’s an age-old trick for smaller guys, but it will make all you average guys out there have sexual intercourse like a porn star!

Well, it’s 4:30 AM and I hear her soft moans of desire calling me back…for more details on how to make your wife incredibly hot, sexy, and horny visit www.makeyourwifehot.comand I will throw in a couple of FREE reports for you. Visit my other blog entries as well. There are stories, techniques, and commentary here that is not in the book but definitely worth the read.

Hawaiian Muscle Fuck…Not Just for D Cups!

We get stimulated 90% from what we see and 10% from what we hear. Why then do you leave the lights off, Felix?

Sure it FEELS good to have sex, but watching you and your partner do the deed certainly adds to the excitement (provided you are both in decent shape! If one or both of you are not, click here to correct the situation) One technique of sex named by somebody with too much time on their hands, is the Hawaiian muscle fuck. This technique is when the man slides his penis between the woman’s boobs.

Men are obsessed with breasts. The multi-billion dollar plastic surgery industry is supported largely by breast implants. If you live in California or South Florida, you can probably say that implants are now MORE common than natural breasts…modern medicine, what a miracle! The Hawaiian Muscle Fuck (HMF for short) is a great way to share with your partner her magnificent achievement and to get an extra dividend from the five grand you invested in those cannons. HER extra stimulation is going to be when she watches you slide your member between those melons and cum all over her chest (and hit her chin if you’ve got the range). This visual stimulation certainly adds to the pleasure for both of you. It allows you a change of scenery from your typical missionary and doggie positions and if you are real artist, you can even add some colored lube and paint a path to victory on her chest.

What if your girl isn’t so endowed? What’s a guy to do?

First choice; Start saving up for a breast job. There are some small framed women who look pretty good with average sized boobs. However, in all of recorded history, no one has ever said, “Gee your breast job looks bad. You were much prettier with a smaller chest.” That is not to say some women have breasts large enough to make Jabba the Hut attractive, we are referring to small chested women who are interested in the HMF technique. Strategy number one, get a breast job. You will both learn to appreciate modern medicine.

If a breast job is not an option for financial, ego, or stupidity, then you are not out of the game, Dexter! Just follow the following game plan.

1. Get plenty of lubrication. You’ll be needing it.
2. COMPLIMENT your woman on her breasts. You’ve already made her feel bad about the breast job idea for the past 2 years. If that option is off the table, you have to start over with building her up with what she’s got.
3. ACT like her breasts are huge. Give her auditory support (since she may not need underwire support) of her beauty. Pay specific attention to her chest and stare at them often.
4. Once you get started, you may find that the lack of cleavage won’t be enough to bring you to orgasm. Play around with the rest of the field. Add some oral, traditional sex, dirty talk, and advanced foreplay to the mix.
5. When you are about to orgasm, be SURE to go to the HMF and finish off there. She will really dig the visual of you pumping your load onto her. She will most likely spread it around like she’s icing a cake…that’s fine. Just be sure to clean her up when you’re done. It’s a nice gesture and she’ll think you are a prince.

For more in depth ideas on making your wife hot, having steamy sex, revitalizing your marriage, and creating the relationship of your dreams, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Make Your Wife HOT

She used to be HOT! What happened? She can be HOTTER than before. Here’s how…

Sex, love, intimacy are all things we crave and go “ga-ga” over. Unfortunately, kids, responsibilities, and routine are in direct opposition to what our relationships were like BEFORE we were married. OK, Chump, I guess you have a choice to make. You can either look for that “ga-ga” feeling elsewhere (in a bottle, being a workaholic, or Stacey in accounting) or you can simply DATE YOUR WIFE AGAIN!

Oh, I know what you are thinking (but DEFINITELY not saying). “Yeah, that makes sense, but my wife is frumpy, older, and just not the hot sex-kitten she used to be. I had the same situation. I turned it around and created the hottest wife imaginable. I am the envy of my friends and I am actually sore from having so much sex. I don’t meant to brag, mind you. But after a few of my friends saw what had happened, I decided to write a book and blog a little on the subject in order to give back. Besides, it keeps me sharp! After creating this skinny, bubbly MILF, I have to make sure I can keep her! Here are a few tips.

1. It starts with YOU! Your communication and lack of attention is disgusting. When was the last time you sent her flowers for no reason? When was the last time you stared into her eyes for 2 minutes without talking? When was the last time you sent her to a spa for a day with her friends. You see, prince charming, you may have found a princess, but in order to keep her from becoming the frumpy, old queen, you have to KEEP TREATING HER LIKE A PRINCESS! GET IT!

2. Communication is going to be dicey. If your wife has put on too much weight and dresses more like a mom, then you have to communicate to her what is important to you, what you like, how it will improve your relationship and what YOU are going to do FIRST! That’s right. If she put on a few pounds and you did too, well, the first step is to set a good example. Go to the gym and get back to your ideal body weight. This will inspire her to do the same. If she dresses like June Cleaver, then you go out and buy her some sexy outfits. Don’t worry about how they look at first, your communication must build her up. Her self-esteem may not be too high. Tell her how wonderful she looks (even if she doesn’t). She knows exactly what she looks like and the more you shower her with praise, the more she will live up to your accolades.

3. Finally, ACT like you are in love with her. Give her praise, spend extra time with her, give her a simple gift of a card or a flower once in a while, and when you are out with your friends, embarrass her by telling her friends, how much you love her and how wonderful she is. This public announcement of your honor and love is extremely powerful.

For more tips, advice, ideas and sarcasm, please visit www.makeyourwifehot.com and turn any wife into a stone cold MILF. We are not talking “Stepford wives” here…I mean your wife should become as naughty, sluty, or sexy as you desire…just for you!

Dirty Talk if you Dare

There is something very special about talking “dirty” during intercourse. If you’ve not done this with your wife, you REALLY need to start. If you have a shy wife, then you need to understand this topic and implement the creativity even more so. If you already talk about “Thrusting your manhood into her sweet wetness”, then you are probably OK here, read on anyway. You may learn something.

We know that sex, stimulation, and love is 90% psychological. Our brains tell our bodies to get wet, hard, or take out the trash. This brain of yours is 1,000,000X more powerful than the world’s largest supercomputer, yet we can fool it as easy as telling our 4 year old about the Easter bunny or almost as easily as telling our wife that “Nothing bad happened at Bob’s bachelor party.”

Your brain is SO easily fooled, that you can shine a light through a moving stream of celluloid film, and whatever some over-paid, neurotic actor said and was recorded on that piece of celluloid can create a physical reaction in your body (laughter or tears or both if the movie was Marley & Me). Our brains can be tricked, influenced, and even made to believe that the government is trying to help us by taking over GM…uh….well maybe not all of our brains can be influenced so easily.

For a more satisfying sexual experience, you can create the most INCREDIBLE fantasy with your wife by simply talking about it. You don’t have to be an accomplished actor or even that good looking to pull this off. Your brain will be fooled into thinking that you and your wife are the most dynamic, sexy, and professional lovers in the world. All you have to do is speak it into existence.

Take a visual vacation from your wife, watch a porno movie, read some dirty magazines, and basically get yourself worked up to a frenzy of testosterone that makes your pants look like a tent. Remember some of the lines, images, specific girls, situations, and fantasies that struck a chord with you. Now comes the fun part. Be sure to do this right, or you might end up with a frying pan smacked across your face. Take the SAME material, share it with your wife and ask her to go through it. She may giggle, give you a raised eyebrow or better yet, say, “Oh that stuff…yeah, it’s OK. Let me show you something REALLY kinky!” The result will be that you two can SAFELY share fantasies and what turns you on. Some people are too shy to do this…LOSERS! Try again with some PG rated chick flick and graduate to some soft porn where you don’t see any penetration. It may take some time to move up to “Debbie Does Dallas” but the road won’t be painful! (Unless you watch THOSE kinds of movies!)

Once you both explore the seedier side of sex it’s time to talk about it. You have two choices here. You can get a bottle of wine, sit out on the porch and discuss why you are so bored with each other and want to join the local swingers group or better yet, take advantage of that bottle of wine, hit the sack and try something new. Below are a few suggestions. For more visit www.makeyourwifehot.com .

1. Atmosphere, mood, and anticipation. After being married for so many years, I am sure you know exactly how to make her orgasm and your foreplay is about 45 seconds. STOP IT! Try a few fantasies such as:
   1. You are on your first date and you have to be a gentleman, even though you both want to do it.
   2. You are in High School and your parents are in the next room
   3. You pick her up at a bar, bring her home and tell her that you are leaving for the Army tomorrow.
   4. You are NOT her husband, but the pool boy and you must get to your next job.

You get the idea…we watch movies and we insert ourselves into the story all the time. The difference is we keep these thoughts to ourselves. How many times have you fantasized about being James Bond, or Indiana Jones? Well, if you are courageous, get the costume and crack that whip. Other than that, get the tuxedo out, order the martini’s and show her who’s the man. The more foreplay the better.

1. Taking your love-making to a more naughty level by “talking it up” during intercourse. This can really intensify the fantasy and make your passion stronger. Always start with a compliment about her “wet, soft, delicious pussy” or how much you want to “slide yourself deep into her wetness”. Focusing on her, her beauty, and your desire for her will combine taste, vision, smell, touch with words. You are hitting ALL the senses now. Grunting is OK, but come on, guy! You mastered the English language in grammar school…use it when it counts!
2. After you have been able to show her what a delicious whore she is (meant in a NICE way) you can graduate to “dangerous” or “off limits” fantasies. Readers of my book know that over 73% of men and 17% of women fantasize about lesbian or bi-sexual acts with women. See the problem here? Those numbers don’t match up! Therefore, you have to use the brain trick to get that fantasy into reality. Next time you are in the heat of passion, you can suggest that next week, you are going to have a surprise for HER. Tell her that a 5’ 2” Asian cunnilingus master is going to join you. Let her know that you will be there to watch, learn and join in appropriately. Focus on HER and how this little tart will show her things that are unimaginable. After she comes for the third time, you will dive into her (your wife) and finish her off. It may be important to let her know that you won’t touch Mei Ling and that she has been there ONLY for your wife (Yeah right). If you run into a road block, just erase that scene, start a new one and enjoy. The really GREAT thing about fantasy land, guys, is that you can create or eliminate a character with a word. Reset the stage and start again.

Have fun with this. Don’t worry about the mistakes you make. Be sure to laugh at the embarrassing moments you share. It’s all good-natured, clean fun that you both will have a ball with. Be creative. Be spontaneous. Be safe and keep it “up.”

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Multiple Orgasm Techniques that Work…Even When They Don’t

Sounds like double talk-right? Well, we are talking about WOMEN, after all! (Easy ladies, we are going to focus on your orgasms, so a little good natured ribbing is OK, right?….uh…I mean, please) This entry in my blog comes after decades of research, many different girlfriends, and of course, one hot wife! Women can be categorized in one of 3 areas. 1) Have had multiple orgasms and know exactly how their body works 2) Have orgasms on a regular basis but only one per session or 3) have never had an orgasm or it is so infrequent, the last one was during the Carter administration.

There are some fundamental physiological, chemical, and mental exercises to help your woman achieve multiple orgasms. To begin with, sex is 90% mental. You can have the most beautiful body in the world, but if there is no “chemistry” or connection beyond a person’s good looks, anyone’s orgasms may be there, but will not be as strong as two people who are in love, have GREAT chemistry, are relaxed and COMPLETELY understand each others bodies. Be sure to read my eBook on making your wife hot, for details. This book will reveal to you the extremely STRONG mental blocks women have and how you can remove them to give her “off the chart sex” and a hunger for more of it…much more.

A woman’s mind must be ready for sex, of course. For a multiple orgasm, she must be more than ready; she must NOT care about it! That would just make her more tense. (Told you they were complex creatures!) You see, if you promise her you can pull it off, her anticipation may be so tremendous, that she actually blocks her body from receiving it. It is similar to someone who knows THEY can shoot 3 under par and telling their buddy to just do it like me and you can shoot like Tiger Woods also. Sounds simple, but it isn’t.

You may tease her with the anticipation of a multiple, but don’t ever promise to deliver. The reason is we are ALL responsible for our own orgasms. We are more connected to our minds and bodies than anyone. Only you can control your own thoughts and actions, which in turn can control your body’s chemical releases.

Mental. Do everything in your power to help your wife relax and be totally into sex. Be sure that you have removed all distractions, set a romantic mood, and fully funded your kid’s college education. This will definitely set her mind at ease so she can concentrate on her clitoris. The more you can do with regards to non-physical foreplay, the better. Don’t overlook her mental state. It is her foundation for love you will go nowhere without doing a first class job, here.

Physical. See if you can get your wife to get a full Brazilian wax job (unless she already has one). Many women have stated that once their box is totally smooth their pleasure doubles or triples! (You never cared to munch on the fur-burger anyway!) Which brings us to the actual technique…you guessed it…Rock Star Cunnilingus!!!!

Technique. The clitoris is where 87% of all women experience their greatest pleasure and sure-fire orgasms. Your technique at painting this spot with your tongue will prove to be your greatest asset. Forget what you see on your favorite porn/whack DVD. That is just a movie, after all. Your job, Felix, is NOT to treat her kitty like a fence to be painted, but rather a piece of fine Japanese tapestry. Use your tongue and mouth like a calligrapher writing his memoirs. Take your time, find her spot and MATCH her energy. When she moans, you moan too. If there is minimal reaction, try humming, a Hall’s Mentho-lyptus, or a mini-vibrator on your tongue (Yes, they actually have these!). As you sense her excitement peaking, the fun begins.

Take her to the “edge of the cliff” of ecstasy but DO NOT FINISH HER OFF! Yes, she will beg and yes, she may be angry. Take her to the edge but don’t stop your artistry…just change your pattern, frequency or area. Then, within a few seconds start over again.

This technique of “almost bringing her to orgasm” seems counter productive, but it works on several levels.

1. Her pre-orgasm pleasure can be repeated over and over again! Yipee!
2. Her body gets used to the roller coaster, ebb and flow of pre-orgasm. This will condition her for having multiple orgasms in the future.

Once you have mastered this roller coaster, you may need to repeat it for a few days, weeks or months, continually conditioning her body for the ebb and flow of pre-orgasm. After an appropriate amount of time, she may be ready to use the same rhythm to achieve an orgasm, go right back into pre-orgasm and repeat the process. YAHOO!!! You are now a certified sex slave and as long as she doesn’t tell her friends, you will be safe from becoming a male gigolo.

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