Saving a marriage begins with your attitude. After you DECIDE to work on it, you have to keep your attitude in the right space. Creating and maintaining that attitude may be a FULL time job, but after it becomes a habit, you won’t even remember what it was like to feel discouraged, hopeless or angry. It starts with making that decision to change.

After your decision has been made, give yourself time to learn how to be a couple again. You may have a few uncomfortable moments, but the journey can also be enjoyable.

Click here and read on for some powerful thoughts and ideas:

Stop watching porn!

I confess that I have never, ever actually watched a complete pornographic movie. Oh sure, I’ve put a few movies on and the wife and I have used the imagery and titillation to arouse the mood. But we never watched the entire movie…sorry about the ridiculousness of it, but there isn’t much difference from the first 10 mintues to the last!

But, seriously, has there ever been an ‘artistic’ movie around sex?

If you want to graduate from banging like animals and create YEARS of variety, sensuality and connection, click here and read on…

Ha! If you’ve paid any attention to ads on TV, you probably thought I was going to give you some advice on how to get generic replacements or generic supplements to give you a boost. Wrong.

It’s not surprising if you have concerns, of course and hopefully we can lend some positive reinforcement to certain cultural myths. Before we attack the cultural myths, let’s be clear about the natural changes men and women go through in midlife and on the back end of midlife (50’s+)

1. When women go through menopause, they know it is happening. It can take anywhere from a few months to a year, but they know the change is coming and they can feel the radical differences in their body.
2. When men “change” the decrease in testosterone is gradual and almost imperceptible. Additionally, it occurs over many years and as a result, it isn’t noticed by most men. The result of this gradual decline for many men is a midlife crisis, confusion and even depression.

Let’s take a look at how anyone can not just cope with the process, but turn it around and create a BETTER sex life in the coming decades (pun intended). Click here and read on…

There are as many reasons for divorce, as there are married couples!  However, you might be surprised to learn that one of the most common reasons for divorce is nothing as dramatic as spousal abuse, or drinking or drug addiction.

Many couples just grow apart.  This issue is very common in couples that marry young, and it is easy to understand.  At age eighteen or twenty, a blushing bride or proud groom has barely come adulthood, and is certainly not mature.

Interests and direction are still evolving.  And, when that evolution begins to slow and the couple find themselves in their thirties or forties, they may suddenly discover that they have grown apart.

This is a very widespread issue and I encourage  you to stop, reflect and have some very DEEP thoughts about how you want your life to turn out. For the complete article, click here now.

Poor Mark Sanford…Just when the media barrage has died down about his midlife crisis, affair and “gone missing” time the ethics committee decide to investigate “ethics” HA!

Putting the title “ethics” on any governmental body is a joke. There are about 450,389,211 jokes about the moral and ethical hypocricy with politicians (Compared to only 387,789,466 jokes about religious leaders).

Listen, Mark…you messed up. All cheaters know the rules. There are several that can be bent, others broken, but a few are basic and should NEVER be questioned.

Click here, read on to understand these rules…

How do I have a quickie?

Why do I WANT a quickie?

A quickie doesn’t hit the same pleasure centers of our brain as soft lights, quiet music and slow seduction. Those environmental triggers cause our romantic qualities to surface. A quickie is designed to attack our base desire to have sex…fast, dangerous and utterly animalistic. A quickie is designed to create an atmosphere of “I have to have you now, I don’t care that we haven’t finished dinner” attitude. This absolute hunger for raw sex is what makes a quickie attractive and effective, but only if you’re doing it right.

Click here and read how to make sure you create the BEST quickie experience for the both of you…

It’s tough being someone like Pierce Brosnan…you can’t just “go out” for ice cream. You’ve got to have body guards to ward off the paparazzi, drive a block out of your way to lose them, and probably sign a few autographs at the Dairy Queen…what a drag.

But you CAN harness the awesome power of charisma, and like any weapon, use it skillfully and purposefully. When looking into the nuances of what you can change, I will avoid the obvious ones (Make more money, lose that spare tire, and have good oral hygiene). You know that the more financially and physically attractive you are the better. It doesn’t matter if you are married or not, the more you earn and the better you take care of your body, the more sex and attention you will get. Period.

So let’s work on the easy stuff first. Read on for 7 simple things you can do TODAY to increase your charisma and get more sex! Click here to read on…

Married?

Bored?

Has the fun, spontaneity and lust really left the marriage for good? Is the idea of an affair, divorce, or fling popping into your head too much?

Here’s a crazy idea, why don’t you seduce your spouse?

It actually is MUCH more difficult to seduce someone who knows your quirks, habits, history and personality. In fact, it is nearly impossible to do BECAUSE there is no mystery or unknowns in the relationship.

In order to put the ZING back into your marriage, consider an easy plan that takes some acting ability, patience and creativity to pull off. You can read the full article here.

What else is there besides sex and money?

What? Are you possessed? Are you a sex addict? COME ON, Doug!!! Surely there is community service, family, religion…heck even an automobile show certainly isn’t about sex and money…wait a minute.

OK, except the car show (Those things are ONLY about sex and money…trust me if you’ve been to one, they don’t use good actresses to show off the cars. These gals are hired because they are sexy!)

Cars….well, we all know that a car is simply an extension of a man’s penis.

How about community, God and country? What about those? How can I honestly think they relate to sex? Read on and see…

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C’mon guys, if you are in the midlife zone, you know you have thoughts of younger women. There is no shame in knowing what you want and being upfront about it.

We are men and we are visual, predatory creatures. Yes?

Just don’t let nature make you look ridiculous.

I am reminded of a joke from Dave Barry’s book, Dave Barry Turns 40.

“Does that mean, as an aging person, you’re no longer capable of feeling lust that you felt as an 18 year old? “Not at all. You’re attracted just as strongly as ever were to 18 year olds! The problem is that everybody your own age seems repulsive.”

Sociology be damned! Man has created so many social rules that trying to figure out where God, the church, evolution, monogamy, love, lust and propagating the species all fit together is maddening.

Let’s focus on one issue at a time. Click here to read the full article.