Stress is the no.#1 killer in America.
Stress of your job, your spouse, your finances, etc. Let’s face it…stress sucks.
The stress of bill collectors can do more to kill your libido than watching re-runs of Tella Tubbies. This is especially true for women. Women crave security. Women are designed to take care, nurture and raise families. Don’t give me any arguments about woman’s liberation or careers. I don’t care. Let me prove my point. Click here and read on…
You want more sex? You think that some “secret” system, love potion or totally ripped abs are ALL you need to get more and better sex in your relationship? Stop being a clown. You are middle aged, tired, you have a pudgy belly and probably can’t even see your penis past your muffin top. What? And you expect your wife or girlfriend to be all “Gaga” over you because you learned some new cunnilingus technique or sent her flowers?
Wake up!
Women need to feel a certain way in order to have sex, dude. We will get to your abs in a minute. I’ve written about how to get your wife or girlfriend to lose weight. Men are more visual and it’s important to us. There are great strategies to help you with this. Remember, however, you’re not perfect so you always have room for improvement. Get it? Start by being a good example for her and show her what is important to you.
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How do you make a woman FEEL sexy? Well, buster you DON’T do it by telling her lies (Or the whole truth for that matter) and you don’t do it by simply giving her an afternoon at the spa (Although that is a GREAT start!)
If you want more sex (And who doesn’t) your mission is to think like a woman and be consistent in your thoughts, actions and feelings. Sometimes that can be difficult when you kids’ mom is acting matronly or is all frumpy and in the “Mom Zone”. Marriages often drift apart because a couple transforms from dating, to marriage to parents…I love kids, but they do change the environment quite a bit! Here are some GREAT tips on making your woman feel sexy. Follow these 11 ideas very carefully, because most of the tips come from women themselves!
“When a man stares at me with total fixation, lust in his eyes and passion in his heart, I feel wanted and sexy.” -Mary C. Chicago, IL
“I feel very sexy after a great hair stylist gives me a cut, shampoo and style. When I come home and my husband sees the new me, we almost always have great sex that night.” -Christine A. Trenton, NJ
“I feel sexy in heels and a nightie.” -Gloria W. Denver CO
There you have it; 3 simple things that make a woman feel more sexy. For 9 more EXTREMELY steamy ideas to make a woman feel sexy, Click here and read on…
The video link I am giving you below discusses the practical side of younger men with more mature women. It is portrayed from a woman’s perspective and very pragmatic. All practicality aside, doesn’t the idea of “forbidden love” and “dangerous liason” add to the excitement of sex?
Only in a HUGE way!
When a man has desires or conquests of a younger woman it helps him to feel more alive and youthful. The same is true for a woman. What man in his late 20’s hasn’t fantasized about a mature, confident, sexy 40-something? For that matter, what teenage boy hasn’t had a crush on one of his teachers?
Want to learn how to integrate the EXCITEMENT of a younger woman in your life WITHOUT the collateral damage of an affair? Click here to watch the video, read my commentary understand how to put unbridled passion into your sex life!
While this isn’t a classic “steamy exploit” blog entry, it is important to try to understand and properly maneuver your emotions and communication with your wife. The ability to speak her language is MORE than half the battle to get more sex, joy and fulfillment in your marriage. My book on this topic if chock full of strategies, ideas, and techniques to take control of your relationship, get more satisfying sex, and turn any housewife into a smokin’ hot MILF!
Let’s start with a basic understanding of the way most women think.
They don’t have grudges; just like a computer, the pop-ups happen for days, months, or even years on any issue.
Men are visual: Women are verbal. Remember that Maxim has more photos and Cosmo has more stories.
Women don’t compartmentalize like men. If we have an argument right before going to work, a man can go to work and be effective. A woman has unresolved issues that do not leave her mind…sometimes for a very long time.
SOLUTIONS:
Guys the only way to “rewire” this computer, restart the clock and have a pleasant day is to do three things:
1. Rethink your assumptions about how she thinks. Don’t use YOUR framework for discussions, arguing, and communication to further the conversation. Your brain isn’t wired the same way. Really try to understand her process. Listen, listen, and then, listen some more. Don’t judge.
2. You may not be the issue, even if you are affected by the issue. So often we think WE are the cause of the rift. While that may be true, clarify first. Ask her if you did anything wrong and if so, get it out. Once a woman gets stuff off her chest, she usually feels better.
3. Be the hero. If an issue comes up from the past or if she can’t let something go, be a champ and let her know that its OK to hold those thoughts. Just as we can’t NOT think about a pink elephant when those words are read or spoken, her ability to “let an issue go” or “close that annoying pop-up” in her brain is impossible. After you listen and encourage more talking, take some action. Do the dishes, help the kids with their homework, or give her a foot rub. Any gesture to ease her suffering will make her feel better and give you the tools to gently rewire that brain and get on the path to joy and happiness.
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Well, today marks my 21st wedding anniversary. INCREDIBLE!
Like many of you, not all 21 have been a bed of roses. With 3 kids, a business that collapsed, a separation, my midlife crisis, affairs and child medical issues, our family therapist stated that the odds were definitely against us. Our “Train wreck” was virtually unsurvivable.
With patience and an open mind, we pieced together remnants of our past, our values, and our needs and pressed forward. Where most people give up out of an excessive amount of pain, we pushed forward. Our book and blog explain it all.
We didn’t always know what the outcome would be. Our hearts very often sought the escape valve of divorce. The separation often gave both of us required space to collect our thoughts and garner some introspection without the pressures of being a “couple.”
There is no “end” of course. We continue to talk, laugh, love and lust for one another. The past issues are constantly in our psyche. We can never eliminate our mistakes-only learn from them.
Increasing sexual desire and pleasure after sleeping with the same person for 22 years (yeah…premarital sex) isn’t easy. My personality craves excitement, adventure and “newness.”
My wife and I nearly divorced not because of my cheating, but because we didn’t know how to communicate the REASONS I strayed from my vows of marriage. Now that we can talk about ANYTHING without judgment or emotion, we have created a new and stronger bond than ever before.
There is no “end” to this story. There is only a new day, every day that we can crawl into bed, whisper something really naughty, break out the new toy or new chapter in the Kama Sutra, and bang each others brains out.
When all else fails in a marriage, try vigorous, passionate, off the chart sex. Couples who have a sexually charged, intimate relationship rarely divorce.
For more ideas on how to create a smokin’ hot MILF for your wife, check out my ebook at www.makeyourwifehot.com. The title is chauvinistic, but the content was written by my wife and me. We both know the benefits of her sex appeal. She feels better about herself and I love…absolutely LOVE having my mistress, my girlfriend and my wife all be one and the same.
This headline STINKS! Just because I’m a guy I can’t “improve”? Just because my solution to “we don’t talk enough” is “I think more oral sex will work” , I am shunned from my wife….well, uhm…yeah!
Men are really simple creatures. Women are not. (At least that is what men THINK) In reality, both genders are very simple, If we study human history and biology we can solve half of the equation of mis-communication between us.
From an anthropological and historical sense, men are the providers. We used our strength to “killl mastodon…bring back to cave…make more people”.
Our female counter parts spent millions of years nurturing and caring for the young. It is only in the past 100 years or so that these roles have merged, crossed over and otherwise co-mingled. Think about the time line. 100 years divided by 1 million years of evolution is 1/10,000. That’s like being told for 50 years that the world is flat, you lived it, you breathed it, your parents were both told that, etc. and then in less than a second it all changed. The earth has always been round, don’t you see?
Men produce billions of sperm per year. Why? In order to propogate the species, of course! Women prepare 1 egg per month…hmmm….I’m no math genius, but isn’t there something wrong here? Yes, I know that many of our guys can’t swim, some are warrior sperm designed to attack and kill other guys sperm. But, the fact remains that men can reproduce into their 70’s, women peak late 40’s/early 50’s and our urge to reproduce at all costs is why our species proliferates the planet.
Now, all of a sudden women tell us we have to search our feelings? UH, my feelings are centrally located in my pants, my dear. It’s not my fault. Blame evolution, God, or that last Mastodon kill that made me feel so virile!
In all seriousness, we CAN talk, share our feelings and connect with women. It’s just not that easy to accomplish. And for that we can blame the media, our fathers, and anyone else who has uttered the words:
The list goes on and on. Men are conditioned from a very early age not to cry, express their feelings, or shed any emotion. Is that evolution or environmental conditioning? Probably both, My Fair Lady. (Or “Trading Places” if you are into 80’s movies)
So in order for us to relate emotionally vs. physically and if a woman wants us to express our inner feelings we have to take a break from our manliness and listen. If you are a woman and you desire a deeper connection or simply wants to avoid arguments, the simplest strategy is to be attentive to our needs, relax, and don’t ask, (at least not directly) “how we feel.” That is a chick question and we seriously don’t know how to answer it.
Sorry.
We CAN improve our communication, however. It takes patience and a bit of manipulation on your part (Shouldn’t be a problem-right?) Since men are visual and pretty much walking hard on’s, appeal to that aspect of ourselves and you can pry all the information you want out of us. Professinal spies have done this for years. You can too! You don’t have to even feel guilty about it.
I am not suggesting sleeping with the enemy, here. I am suggesting being that incredibly hot girlfriend you were when he met you! You once were. Perhaps 12 years of marriage, 2.5 kids, a mortgage, sleepless nights, and endless piano recitals have made you both forget what it was like to be boyfriend/girlfriend and date each other. Since you are smarter than he is, go ahead and start dating (with a vengance!). Put on your sexiest outfit, kidnap him after work, go to a cheap hotel, and rock his world. Don’t even try to tell me that won’t affect him in a positive sense!
Guys, if you REALLY want to have sex with a smokin’ hot MILF and be sore every other day, you HAVE to learn the skills of communicating on a deep, emotional level with your woman. It isn’t as simple as saying, “I really love you” or “You are everything to me.” Words are a great start. But women are smarter than us, of course. You need to increase your emotional strength and communication.
Bottom line is, you have to lead.
My book, Make Your Wife Hot, has been reported to have a chauvinist title. DUH! Of course! It is oriented to men. However, I am not afraid to admit this, guys…my wife and I co-wrote it. Clearly 1/2 of the content is emotionally-based strategy and tactics that women clearly want and need.
In fact, we surveyed and polled nearly one hundred couples and women to come up with the essence of sex in a relationship, from a woman’s perspective. We did this because (generally speaking) guys want more sex.
Actually, women do too. They just call it love. Men crave sex in order to “feel” love and woman crave love in order to have sex. It’s simple but so many men get the order wrong. They think that their sexual prowess in the bedroom will make a woman swoon and be loyal to them forever. BUZZ! WRONG! If that were true, you wouldn’t see so many average looking guys with smokin’ hot wives. (The opposite is rarely true-sorry ladies)
Women crave security. This security can come in many forms from financial, spiritual, emotional, physical, etc. Going back to the Mastodon example, as long as Thor brought back enough meat to feed the little ones, life was bliss (or at least survivable). Now that supermarkets are in vogue, financial security has largely replaced brute strength. That’s why rich-middle aged male celebrities often end up with supermodels.
NOTE: If you are a middle aged woman threatened by that statement then you DEFINITELY need to read my ebook. You have more experience, sex appeal and confidence than any supermodel…your hubby knows it. Reading my book and applying the principles will make him yours-forever.
So, guys, do yourself a favor. Start reading an occassional self-improvement book or relationship book. You will understand that women aren’t really that complex. She will shower you with sex (and love) every time she catches you reading that book, listening to her talk or sees you picking up your underwear. All of these activities are a turn on in some fashion. DO IT!
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Let me begin by letting you know that my wife and I interviewed over 35 different therapists, experts and authorities who validated this secret. We have probably read every romance, intimacy, relationship and marriage book available at Barnes and Noble. Our personal testimonial to this secret has been backed up by dozens and dozens of our readers and subscribers. It has NOTHING to do with any herb, chemical, drug or other outside influencer. This secret has been overlooked for hundreds of years by divorcing couples, dissatisfied partners, and bored couples. This secret to increasing a woman’s sex drive has confused men from all nation’s and from all walks of life. To deliver the secret in one word would be too easy. I have personally LIVED through hell and heaven and hell again with my wife of 20 years. I confess to you that without this secret, my divorce would have been filed and my family would be a mess.
At the ripe old age of 29, many people think they are adults. They believe their wisdom to have peaked and that after “playing the field” it is time to settle down. After a courtship of a year or two, this young couple BELIEVES they can communicate, love, laugh and even argue a little bit. This couple is ready to commit to a lifetime together. They believe they are prepared to start a family and live happily ever after.
Truth is, over 80% of them are dead wrong.
With 50-60% of couples divorcing in this country there is an obvious lack of understanding of the secret to success in marriage. With the other 40-50% of couples, studies have shown that over half of THEM are dissatisfied in their marriages as well.
Men are really quite superficial. If their wife continues to stay sexy, attentive, and sexually charged and interesting to her man, he rarely strays away from her. I wish there were deeper, more intellectually driven reasons for men to stay faithful. Ask 100 married guys if they were in love when they dated and 92 of them would say yes. Ask the same 100 if they CONTINUE to date throughout their marriage and 92 of them would say very little to not at all.
The secret to not only increasing your wife’s sex drive, but also to building, maintaining and increasing a healthy sex life is based on one simple secret.
Communication.
Oh, I’m not talking about “who’s turn it is to do the dishes” or “How was your day”. I am talking about each of you revealing ALL of your thoughts, desires, wishes, and feelings. Men are the WORST at this and need to come clean. I am not even talking about having regular “discussions” about feelings (which men avoid like asking for directions). I am talking about real, deep, honest and non-judgmental discussions about your fantasies, desires, hopes, dreams, and thoughts.
Guys, if you want to have a sex machine in your bed, you have to start by communicating all the time with your wife. Some of your thoughts might not be pleasant (“You know honey, your butt DOES look bigger in that dress”) and she might not have the greatest things to say about you. Of course, you have to be diplomatic in your delivery. But consider how much more connection you will have once you are able to share everything with her!
Many guys don’t talk about the fantasies they have or the porn they “accidentally” saw online. If you think you are alone-forget it. In fact, women have fantasies just as much as guys do. Your job, Chuck, is not to keep your thoughts and fantasies inside your or release them in Vegas with your buddies. Your mission should be to INCLUDE your wife in those fantasies. I guarantee you that once you both get down to the core issues you may or may not have discussed, your connection and intimacy will blossom. The bottom line is that open, honest, and thorough communication can only strengthen your bonds. Once you get over your individual frailties, fears and inhibitions, your candor, honesty and sincerity will prevail.
In fact, once she sees that you are OK with chatting openly about anything, she feel secure in doing the same. Who knows? Maybe she shares some of your fantasies, fears, or issues and you can talk about it together.
And, not all of your conversations need be deep or vulnerable. Sometimes just the quantity of your communication will be enough to make her feel secure with you and open up to you more emotionally AND sexually. After all, she talks to her girl friends non-stop. Just because you don’t want to hear about all that crap, doesn’t mean she wouldn’t tell you. Get her to open up by opening up yourself, first. You will be amazed at the fire you will accelerate in her loins by becoming her best friend. You have NOTHING to lose and a hot wife to gain!
For more tips on making your wife hot, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com and check into this blog every few days. My wife wasn’t always the hottest woman in the room…but she is now. Yours can be too!
She used to be a depressed, overweight, unaffectionate “mom”…in less than 6 months, I was dating a certified MILF! This didn’t happen overnight and it didn’t come without a bunch of stress, tears, anger, and serious talks about divorce. But we did turn it around. Nowadays, I am actually MORE turned on by her than when she was 26. Why? Because 48 year old, thin, sexy women are MORE confident and know how to please a man and how to please themselves…without hesitation!
But, how do you turn around a relationship and/or marriage that is boring, stale and has almost no hope for survival? Do you even WANT to turn yours around? If you have any desire at all, you need to focus, pay close attention and find out how to make your wife hot!
Perhaps you are like me and your life is come to a cross roads. Not all at once. Not in an instant, but slowly and methodically, you notice that she isn’t the nympho she used to be, you are working too much, and the kids seem to take priority over everything. You may be looking elsewhere or you may have already sought satisfaction in other ways or with other women. If you have, you may have opened up Pandora’s box (or was her name Stacey?).
You see, if you have cheated and your lover is younger, prettier and more exciting than your wife (duh!) then you have twice as much work to do! Don’t worry, the “work” will be more fun than you can imagine.
1. You must first DECIDE that you want to save your marriage. That decision comes based on your commitment, values and what you have invested in the relationship. Their are probably children and assets to be concerned with. Weigh that against you sordid moments of pleasure…hmmm…
2. Once you have made that decision, you have to communicate with your wife…a lot. You probably have to tell her about the affair. Your guilt will most likely impede all other communication, so let it out, let the sparks fly and once the dust settles, you can both look forward to a new day! (unless she isn’t the forgiving type, then its off to Buenos Aires with Stacey!) Your communication must be centered on your needs, values, and what you want out of life along with what you want in a partner. If your wife is frumpy or overweight, be sure to look in the mirror BEFORE you approach that subject. She will most likely follow in your footsteps if you are getting into shape.
3. Finally, start telling her NOW that she is a goddess. People will live up to what is expected of them. When you call her your princess (or your private whore, depending on how far you’ll be going with this) she will want to be the hottest MILF out there. Her desire to be beautiful has always been there. You have to encourage it to come out of her.
4. Date your wife. Nothing could be simpler and so overlooked. Remember when you DID date her BEFORE you were married? Did you leave your underwear on the floor then? Did you send her flowers, or call her at work “just because”. Most men forget these simple habits and take their princess’ for granted. Don’t do it! Put her on a pedestal and tell her friends how hot she is.
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