Get My Man Off

I am not a sluty wife, but my husband likes to think I am HIS private concubine. As a marketing professional, I used to be disgusted with his labeling me as his private whore. It was demeaning and cheap.

Once I realized his fantasy had nothing to do with MY self-esteem, I warmed up a little bit. In a few months, I actually ENJOYED being incredibly sensual, sexy and naughty for him. Private whore…hmm…it is definitely a character I have no experience with in my past. Thanks to his balance of respect and desire for eroticism, I now enjoy being the professional, suburban couple in the daytime and a naughty temptress at night! Let’s explore that hunk’s body…

Compared to male body, female body has a greater variety of erogenous zones. Sorry boys. But there is a general misunderstanding by many women that a man’s only erogenous zone is located  in his pants. This area represents only a small percentage of his erogenous zones which has dozens of hot spots. So let’s “touch” a few of them right now…

Get Your Wife to Dress Sexy

If you want your wife or girlfriend to dress sexy, it is definitely THE season to plant the right seeds to get her to feel sexy, dress sexy, act sexy and give you more sexy…(Thanks Borat)

With Halloween fast approaching, now is the PERFECT time to get a shy or reluctant woman to see what it feels like to put on your fantasy outfit. Keep in mind the bottom line for any woman is that deep down inside, she wants to feel sexy. Weight, age, gravity and the economy are all great excuses for not wanting to dress sexy or naughty…forget about it! You are a man and you LIKE sexy outfits! Don’t let her embarrassment or shyness hinder your fantasy! CLICK HERE for a few tips to insure you don’t push the idea too hard or too fast.

Secret Foods to Increase Your Sex Drive

It’s no secret that the unhealthy American diet is contributing to an epidemic of obesity. But there’s another hidden epidemic that our fatty diets are at the root of: a national sex crisis.

In 1996, the average American had sex 138 times a year. Compare that to 2007, when people reported having sex just 85 times a year. That’s a staggering 38 percent decrease in a little more than a decade. Furthermore, psychologists estimate that as many as 1 in 5 couples are in a sexless marriage, which means sex less than 10 times a year. In other words, our sex drive is in a deep dive.

One of the big culprits, for both men and women, is obesity. As a person’s weight soars, their libido plummets due to biochemical changes that result in diminished bloodflow—there’s simply no sex without strong blood flow. And even when Americans do manage to have sex, the extra weight they’re bringing to the bedroom also hinders their ability to have children—with men, it’s damaged sperm; with women…(You know we HAD to tease you! For the complete article, click here.)

Sex, Lies & Videotape

Sex, lies and videotape was a movie starring a young James Spader and I thought it was a decent film. What my  wife and I do has NOTHING to do with that film, but the essence of role playing, videotaping your wife and getting creative is what this article is about.

My wife is NOT an exhibitionist. This is a wee bit of an obstacle because having her get a little crazy and dirty dancing in public is a bit of a turn on for me. If you are a fan of my blog and/or book, you know that her transformation from frumpy housewife to smokin’ hot MILF was HUGE!

We are able to turn on the passion at the drop of a hat and have the intimacy and passionate sex that is normally reserved for the movies. This kind of passion is normally reserved for newlyweds, NOT for a couple celebrating their 21st wedding anniversary.

Getting her to dirty dance at night clubs happens every so often. But if we aren’t in the mood to go out or if we are traveling and there are no “anonymous” places we can go (Not being known helps her to get out of her shell) then we sometimes get a little crazy with the camera.

Now, let’s be clear, we don’t do amateur porn or anything. But, once we start to role play a little bit, our imaginations run wild and after a half hour of having her talk in a eastern European accent and slowly fidgeting with her blouse, I get a little hot and bothered. Setting up the video camera and getting her to really heat things up can be SO seductive!

The first time we did this, honestly, I knew she wouldn’t go for the camera thing. I decided it was better to ask for forgiveness than permission, so I hid it behind some books on the table and let it run. I asked her if “Natasha” was available (This is one of our fantasy Eastern European Courtesan characters she likes to bring to our bedroom) and she said, “Da.”

Once Natasha explained how horny she was, I purposely kept the air conditioning off so she could perspire a little bit. The more Natasha breathlessly whispered how hot she was and how turned on she was, I politely asked her to unbutton her blouse and I would get her an ice tea. Actually I brought her a Long Island ice tea and as she became tipsy, her accent slipped a bit, but her sexual arousal did not.

The entire evening lasted about an hour and the videotape lasted only 45 minutes. This wasn’t a bad thing, because the shot was wide angle and I couldn’t see the soft, moist skin of my wife very well, anyway.

After I confessed that I had taped our interview and seduction, my wife laughed and said, “Natasha doesn’t care, only I do.” So, whenever I want to videotape my wife dancing, stripping, or simply record that sexy accent during a seduction scene, I only have to ask for one of our imaginary friends to accomodate us. This not only turns me on to NO END, but it allows for some serious fantasy-time with other women. And yes, I reciprocate with my wife. I have only 2 or 3 accents that I do decent enough to let her fantasies run wild, but that is MORE than enough to keep our marriage fresh, our love alive and our sexual excitement at its peak.

For more ideas, strategies and tips to make your wife hot and your marriage hotter, visit http://makeyourwifehot.com.

G-Spot Basics

The g-spot is a bean-shaped, spongy mass of nerve tissue that sits just under the frontal vaginal wall. Composed of tissue that closely resembles the corpora cavernosa erectile tissue in a man’s penis, the g-spot swells in size when a woman is aroused.

It’s named after gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg, who discovered it in 1944. But it goes back farther than that, being mentioned as a “sacred spot” over one-thousand years ago by shamanic elders who were the forerunners of today’s practitioners of tantric sex.

Is the g-spot: a magical ticket to sexual bliss? It’s a controversial subject, and there are divided opinions on its very existence. Some women love g-spot stimulation, some don’t, some are ambivalent, and some women don’t seem to have one.

So, how do you find out if your lady might enjoy stimulation of this mythical buried treasure?

To locate her g-spot, it’s best for her to be aroused, as it will be easier to find in an erect state. Have her lay on her back with her hips slightly lifted or propped up on a small pillow. Put one or two fingers inside her vaginal wall towards the front of her body (belly-button side). Reach in as far as you can go, and crook your fingers toward you in a “come hither” type movement, sliding your finger/s along the vaginal wall until you find a rough-textured area. The g-spot should feel ridged or nubbly compared to the rest of the vaginal canal and is generally found about 2 inches in, although it can lie pretty much anywhere along the front of the vaginal canal – even as far back as the cervix. It’s really more of an area then an actual “spot.”

Once you’ve determined that she has one, what do you do with it? Well, that depends. Some women enjoy g-spot stimulation and some women don’t. Be aware that how much she enjoys it may also depend on where she is in her menstrual cycle.

Often, the first sensation a woman will feel with stimulation of the g-spot is an urgent need to pee. This sensation usually passes fairly quickly, however, so if you’re both patient you can get past it and to the good stuff. It may be a good idea for her to make sure her bladder is empty before stimulation!

To manually stimulate the g-spot, you will need to experiment with different pressures and motions. Communicate to find out what is most pleasurable for her. Moving your finger/s in that “come hither” motion works well for a lot of women. Because the g-spot is located inside of the vaginal wall, you may need to exert a fair bit of pressure to stimulate it. Don’t be afraid to use a firm touch.

Using the fingers in a “tapping” motion works very well to stimulate the g-spot. Tap the area with your fingers and try varying the speed and firmness of the tapping.

Try to “work” the area with small circles. Each woman is different and may appreciate different stimulation techniques.

Also try using your other hand on the outside of her body and apply soft, downward pressure just above her pubic hairline. This may increase the stimulation by “sandwiching” the area between both hands. Don’t count out toys that are specifically made for g-spot stimulation. It can take some of the guesswork out of stimulation.

As for stimulation during sex, there are positions that can help you make intimate contact. If your dick naturally curves upward, you may have a built-in ability to stimulate her g-spot! If you don’t, then any position that maximizes contact with the front of her vaginal wall will work well. Woman-on-top-facing-you works well, she can also slightly lean back to take advantage of more front-vaginal contact. The missionary position works well if you prop her hips up – and works even better if she’s laying on the edge of something and you’re standing on the floor. You may not even need to prop her hips up. By standing, you have more control over the angle your penis goes in at. For advanced techniques at stimulating her brain along with her body, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Remember, each woman will have her preferences. Experiment and find out what works for your lady. She may really enjoy it, she may be annoyed by it or find it uncomfortable – or she may not even have one.

As women age they may respond more positively to g-spot stimulation. This is because their estrogen levels begin to decline and this causes their vaginal lining to become thinner, allowing easier access to the g-spot.

Importantly, some women can even ejaculate with g-spot stimulation! But keep in mind that the g-spot is not some kind of “magic button.” Just as with any other part of the body, some women will find its stimulation highly arousing, while others won’t. Don’t get too caught up in the semantics or treat it like a holy quest. Just enjoy the sexual exploration.

For more ideas and real -world advice on making YOUR wife hot, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.

NEW Hot Spots for Your Hot Wife

You have favorite parts of your wife’s body that you most frequently like to explore, but there is more to her than a vagina, breasts and butt. The largest amount of nerve endings for sexual stimulation may be concentrated in those areas, but she has nerve endings everywhere and the more you are able to treat her ENTIRE body like a temple, the less you’ll be accused of being a “pig with a one track mind.” Incorporating a variety of touching into these places during foreplay and sex, or just giving her some pleasure after a hard day, will definitely earn you some brownie points. Besides, just because you KNOW what makes her click doesn’t mean you can’t find/create/invent NEW ways to stimulate her body and soul!

Hair

Going to the salon or spa is like a mini-vacation for most women. Treat your wife to a spa treatment as often as you can. The process of wash, cut, color, and styling can actually be quite a stress reliever. My wife REALLY loves to have her scalp massaged. Ask anyone who goes to the salon what their favorite part is and they’ll tell you the shampooing! Running your hands gently through her hair is a surefire way to send tingles down her spine. After you massage her scalp a bit, let your fingers massage circles from her temples to the nape of her neck and gently blow in her ear…hmmm….

Nape of her neck

Japanese culture regards the nape of the neck as THE most sensual part of a woman’s body. Don’t believe me? Take a look at 100 art pieces and you’ll find over half of the images of woman reveal the back of her neck. Once you get to the nape of her neck, lightly kiss it followed by a gentle neck rub. The nape of the neck is often neglected in favor of more obvious pleasure centers, but never underestimate the power of gentle touches and kisses from her hairline to her shoulders.

Small of her back

The best way to guide your woman through a crowd is to place your hand against the small of her back. This small gesture shows that you feel protective of her without being too pushy like an arm around the shoulder might be. Touching and holding the small of her back gives her support, comfort and a feeling of protection. Next time you are engaged in foreplay, use that feeling of security to your advantage by spending a few moments there with your hands, mouth and fingers.

Behind her knees

This area is one that most men don’t think of when trying to stimulate a woman, but it is, in fact, quite sensitive. Gently caressing the back of the knee under her skirt while the two of you are in a public place will make her ready to get busy once you get home. Don’t forget to pay some more attention to this special spot once you’re alone too. Giving erotic massages to your wife is foreplay 101, and the more you focus on all the forgotten parts of her body, the more she will realize you love ALL of her! Showing her that love non-sexually AND sexually is important to the relationship you are building and growing. My book was created out of necessity to re-charge my 21 year marriage that was on the brink of disaster. It’s more than a book, it’s a rescue tool for ANY relationship.

Palms of her hands

Ditto for massaging hands. With more women working on keyboards, holding children and doing more physical labor than most men, focusing on her hands is a great start. People often use their hands as tools to please their partners, but rarely do they consider the pleasure potential of stimulating the hands themselves. The palm of a woman’s hand is an innocuous spot to focus a little attention on without making people around you uncomfortable. Tracing your finger along her palm will give her delightful shivers and make you appear sensitive and attentive.

Earlobes

Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the earlobes of your woman will up the bliss factor for her. These delicate, soft lobes are very sensitive and most women thoroughly enjoy the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. Whispering sweet nothings into her ear, or naughty somethings can send her into unimaginable anticipation depending on what you say and when. If you aren’t too poetic, focus on the nibbling, blowing and kissing. Don’t think that jamming your tongue inside her ear is sexy or romantic. Slow, soft, steady and subtle are the keywords here.

Feet

A GOOD foot massage to help her relax, is often better than a back massage especially if she is on her feet all day. Use some massage oil or lotion to make the experience more pleasurable (and possibly reduce foot odor). Don’t forget to pay some attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Bending the toes back and forth is a great start. My wife really enjoys it when I massage her individual “piggies” one by one, rolling my fingers around each of her toes. If she is ticklish, be nice!

Inner thighs

Touching her inner thighs and NOT going into her vagina will make for an excellent tease that is sure to get excited. Kiss the insides of her thighs, getting excruciatingly close to her ultimate pleasure spot, and then pull back before going all the way. If you can’t resist and find yourself on her vagina while doing this, there are no rules that say you can’t go back to her thighs midstream. In fact, the teasing involved with STOPPING oral sex extends the anticipation of the orgasm and strengthens the inevitable rush of euphoria.

Conclusion

Her entire body is covered with nerve endings that could be stimulated, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have some places that simply don’t do anything for her. Some women can’t stand to have their wrists, face or other areas touched. Exploration with permission is the plan here, buddy. As you explore, you’ll learn which places your touch has the best effect on and which you should avoid.

For tactics and strategies that REALLY work, check out www.makeyourwifehot.com and learn not only how to have a sexually-charged relationship, but how to create the hot wife of your dreams!

Porno: Chicken Soup For the Lustful Marriage

I remember the first time my wife and I watched porno to, gether…yeah…it was a riot! We couldn’t help but laugh at the incredibly complex dialogue in the film. “Do me…yeah..harder” We didn’t expect Oscar material, of course. However, we did expect some kind of foreplay/build up that would make the actual scenes somewhat interesting….HA!

It is interesting to note that the advent of the Internet and amateur porn has done a real service to adding the spice to relationships. Initially, we saw amateur porn as a dilution and slippery slope (pardon the pun) towards lower quality visual stimulation. We took a break for a few years and didn’t watch much at all. The stuff that was out there was simply more of the same…oooh….ahhhh…yeah…..just not very creative or interesting. We focused on some very high level psychological triggers and endorphin rushes that gave both our orgasms HUGE increases in power that I clearly describe in my book.

Last night we were surfing some sites together and found a few stimulating and interesting sites that caused our hearts to flutter and our libidos to be aroused.

Security camera footage.

Now, I know that many of these “scenes” were probably set ups, but the really interesting ones may have been actual security cameras that actually caught co-workers on tape…what a hoot! These scenes gave us just the right mix of laughter and voyeurism that made us excited and curious to see if they were going to get caught. You see. the excitement of getting caught can heighten sexual stimulation.

Perhaps you remember what it was like to mess around in High School downstairs while your parents were upstairs. Or remember the time you were at the drive-in theatre and a light flashed in your car? Any situation that involves a bit of danger naturally hightens our defensive response of fight of flight. This added amount of adrenaline obviously can make sex VERY satisfying and more thrilling than your run of the mill missionary bedroom flavor encounter.

So next time you need some extra juice to put in your MILF’s love tank, get out a porno movie, or google sites that have sexy hidden camera moments…it may give you a rush or at least give you some education on where to look for cameras, before you bend your wife over in the copier room.

For more ideas on making your marriage extra exciting, creating a smokin’ hot sex-machine for a wife, visit http://makeyourwifehot.com.  Your sex life is about to go into overdrive.

Sex Text for More REAL Sex

I never would have thought that learning to text would INCREASE my sexual activity….but it has!

Guys, if you haven’t learned to text, then spend a few minutes with your teenager and learn…today! You will get an added benefit of being a really cool dad in the process. Texting my wife in the middle of the day, on a train, or during a wedding has added to the ongoing titillation that has created MORE sexual tension and energy in my life than ever before. Below are a few do’s and don’ts to make sure you create the excitement and sexual tension that will make your wife hot! For more ideas, please check out my book. Below are some pointers that have served me well and given me more sex than  I can possibly handle:

DO:
Tease her at odd times. During a boring meeting,  middle of the day, during dinner, or anytime that is unexpected.

DON’T:
Blatantly say you want to have sex. Tease her with nice sayings, hinting towards romance, or a role of a lover.

DO:
Keep your texts short and mysterious. Long texts take away the insinuation or mystery. Less is more.

DON’T:
Always answer your texts immediately. If you need a moment to come up with a great response-take it.

DO:
Be more aggressive. I once asked my wife to remove her panties during a train ride. I didn’t give up and repeated my request for over 45 minutes. If I had been verbally asking, it would have been annoying. Texting, for some reason, removes the annoying part and made it funny.

DON’T:
Use texting to cause any jealousy. If you are not in the same room, any jealousy insinuations may not be taken as humor. Texting removes visual cues that we need to fully understand some humor or wise cracks. Be sure to keep your messages directed only towards your lover.

DO:
Send pictures if you are apart for any length of time. A NEW picture of you gives her the feeling that you want to show yourself to her. Asking her to reciprocate is appropriate and shows her you want her. BONUS for requesting and recieving naughty pictures that are seductive or have any amount of nudity.

Text to your hearts content. Be respectful, but adventureous. The more you surprise her with unusual requests, words, and phrases the better. Don’t worry about when you text or what she’s doing when you send them. The more she gets an UNEXPECTED text, the better your chances of turning that idea into reality when you see her. For more ideas on creating the most sexually-charged relationship imaginable and having a very hot wife, visit my site at www.makeyourwifehot.com.

The Low Down on Going Down

Nearly every guy believes he is a master at oral sex…that’s OK. I do too. The difference is, I have dozens (not hundreds, I mean there are diseases out there, fellas!) of testimonials from women whose future sex lives I have personally ruined. I was the best they ever had or will ever have (unless their new guy is reading this!) Let me begin with the foundation for mind-blowing oral sex.

You have to enjoy it.

You see, if you are merely doing a “task” to get her off, you will be an average lover. Simply applying the techniques below is not enough to make her your sex slave for life. Believe me, if you do put your heart, soul (and yes, your tongue) into this, you have a chance of giving her multiple orgasms and become the Chinese lick master of the world. If you are one of those people who think that it is just disgusting and try to refrain from it, take a step back and relax. If your woman smells funny, try it again immediately after a shower. Keep in mind, if a woman climaxes well via oral sex, she may be unable to have an orgasm during routine sex. Some women cannot climax without receiving oral sex. There are strategies and techniques for getting her off either way (see book). If that is a challenge for you, get over it. If your lady loves oral sex, give it to her and if she does not, then discover the reason behind it.

1. She might have had a bad experience.

2. She might feel uncomfortable about her body.

3. If she doesn’t want it, then don’t force it on her.

4. Some men think that giving oral sex is disgusting, but love to receive it. That’s not fair you idiot, if you like your partner to perform oral sex, then you need to do the same for her, ENTHUSIASTICALLY.

Secrets of Mind Blowing Oral Sex
- Begin teasing her before going down on her. Run your fingers on her thighs and kiss her on her belly button and belly and then from there just dig into her vagina. Brush your tongue against the labia, and create more lubrication before the show begins.
- Enjoy and have fun and let her know that you are having a great time, as women love it when they feel that their men are just loving their bodies. I always moan a bit and when I am coming up for air, I give her compliments about her pussy.
- Don’t rush yourself. Try to spend plenty of time in pussy-ville. Enjoy everything and explore her vagina like an adventurer. Hurrying to achieve a climax is a sure way to avoid one. Many women who are rushed or too anxious to climax don’t do so.
- Tickle her clitoris with your tongue. Start licking it slowly and then start doing it in a fast rhythm. Because some women love to get their clitoris stimulated and even achieve orgasm while their clitoris is being stimulated. Stop treating it like a fence to be painted. Think about Chinese characters and calligraphy. Paint the alphabet slowly and creatively.
- Massage her outer lips. While you are sucking and licking her clitoris, massage her lips. Pull them away and bring them close together. This will drive her totally insane.
- Use your fingers. Use your fingers to penetrate her while you are licking her clitoris. She will love this. Chances are before long you will feel her tremble with pure delight. Also, you can rub her clitoris while you eat her. You can also try using a toy while you are eating. The three of you will all benefit.
- Put a pillow under her ass. This will give you more room for your dinning pleasure. You will be able to focus more on how to please her if you have more access to her. This Kama Sutra position will also allow deeper penetration of your fingers or toy.
- Massage her nipples. Most women love it when they nipples are rubbed during sex acts. I had one girlfriend who insisted on biting her nipples (impossible during cunnilingus, but you get the idea). Keep in mind that variety is the key.
- Stop midway through intercourse to eat her. This will catch her by surprise. Get her all worked up by pounding the hell out of her. Just when she least expects it, jump down and start licking her beaver. She will go crazy when you do this.
- Take a mint first. This will set her wild. Put a menthol cough drop in your mouth and go down there. After you are done, share it and have her go down on you while she sucks on the cough drop.
- Two Step. Put your mouth on her clitoris and suck while your tongue is in motion. This two-step move of sucking and licking should be reserved for the pre-orgasm. It works nearly all the time.
- Hum a little tune. While you are sucking, hum a little. Some women really like this. Vary the intensity, volume, and rhythm of your humming.
- Encourage a Brazilian wax. Nothing beats eating a fur-burger EXCEPT a fully waxed and clean pussy. Not only will you appreciate avoiding nature’s dental floss. But most women report better and more satisfying sex when their pussy’s are waxed or at least shaved.

Do Not…
- Smell. Don’t tell her that she stinks or ask if she showered today. Take a shower together and start the action while you are in the shower.
- Don’t insist on performing oral sex. If she isn’t feeling so fresh, she is dropping you a hint. If you insist too much, you might get a face full of blood if she is on her period.
- No bartering. Don’t tell her that since you went down on her, she should go down on you.
-No past comparisons. She isn’t your ex, so don’t compare her to her. Keep in mind that the foundation for good oral sex is enthusiasm, communication and patience. I have other articles on multiple orgasm techniques, creating better sex no matter how long you’ve been together or married, and how to make your wife hot. www.makeyourwifehot.com.

Spontaneous Sex

Busy people everywhere are trying to “arrange” their schedules around work, sleep, soccer practice, dinner,  helping kids with their homework and their love life. More often than not, the one aspect that suffers the most is their love life.

Here’s a unique solution.

Think about the BEST most recent encounter you’ve had with your wife. Think about the last time you were together and had really good sex. Not a typical romp, mind you. Think about the last really, really great time you had.

With that in mind, do what I did and take that thought and energy and interrupt whatever she is doing and take her into your bathroom, bedroom or closet at THAT MOMENT and have a quickie.

You don’t even have to finish her off. Yesterday, after a grueling day at work, she seemed tired, overworked, and pre-occupied. When I told her to “come here I have something to show you,” she had no idea what was about to happen.

I took her into the bathroom, kissed her passionately and hiked her dress up. She tried to stop me and talked about her period. These excuses were no match for my lust. I put her on the sink counter top and did her right there. My son was in the other room, so while we were quiet, we didn’t pause, stop or consider moving to a new room. The moment was spontaneous, passionate, and unstoppable. We didn’t have a long session, mind you. It wasn’t gentle. It wasn’t even that romantic.

It was spontaneous. It was passionate. It was over in less than 10 minutes.

But it was a moment that was unplanned and she was every bit as excited as the time before when there was hours of anticipation and rose petals on the bed. This wasn’t one of those times. She wasn’t always this insatiable or hot. She used to be cautious, a bit frumpy and busy being a full-time mom. But ever since we co-authored the book, “How to Make Your Wife Hot” she’s been impossible to cool down.

For more information on creating off the chart sex with your wife, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com.