Let me begin by letting you know that my wife and I interviewed over 35 different therapists, experts and authorities who validated this secret. We have probably read every romance, intimacy, relationship and marriage book available at Barnes and Noble. Our personal testimonial to this secret has been backed up by dozens and dozens of our readers and subscribers. It has NOTHING to do with any herb, chemical, drug or other outside influencer. This secret has been overlooked for hundreds of years by divorcing couples, dissatisfied partners, and bored couples. This secret to increasing a woman’s sex drive has confused men from all nation’s and from all walks of life. To deliver the secret in one word would be too easy. I have personally LIVED through hell and heaven and hell again with my wife of 20 years. I confess to you that without this secret, my divorce would have been filed and my family would be a mess.
At the ripe old age of 29, many people think they are adults. They believe their wisdom to have peaked and that after “playing the field” it is time to settle down. After a courtship of a year or two, this young couple BELIEVES they can communicate, love, laugh and even argue a little bit. This couple is ready to commit to a lifetime together. They believe they are prepared to start a family and live happily ever after.
Truth is, over 80% of them are dead wrong.
With 50-60% of couples divorcing in this country there is an obvious lack of understanding of the secret to success in marriage. With the other 40-50% of couples, studies have shown that over half of THEM are dissatisfied in their marriages as well.
Men are really quite superficial. If their wife continues to stay sexy, attentive, and sexually charged and interesting to her man, he rarely strays away from her. I wish there were deeper, more intellectually driven reasons for men to stay faithful. Ask 100 married guys if they were in love when they dated and 92 of them would say yes. Ask the same 100 if they CONTINUE to date throughout their marriage and 92 of them would say very little to not at all.
The secret to not only increasing your wife’s sex drive, but also to building, maintaining and increasing a healthy sex life is based on one simple secret.
Communication.
Oh, I’m not talking about “who’s turn it is to do the dishes” or “How was your day”. I am talking about each of you revealing ALL of your thoughts, desires, wishes, and feelings. Men are the WORST at this and need to come clean. I am not even talking about having regular “discussions” about feelings (which men avoid like asking for directions). I am talking about real, deep, honest and non-judgmental discussions about your fantasies, desires, hopes, dreams, and thoughts.
Guys, if you want to have a sex machine in your bed, you have to start by communicating all the time with your wife. Some of your thoughts might not be pleasant (“You know honey, your butt DOES look bigger in that dress”) and she might not have the greatest things to say about you. Of course, you have to be diplomatic in your delivery. But consider how much more connection you will have once you are able to share everything with her!
Many guys don’t talk about the fantasies they have or the porn they “accidentally” saw online. If you think you are alone-forget it. In fact, women have fantasies just as much as guys do. Your job, Chuck, is not to keep your thoughts and fantasies inside your or release them in Vegas with your buddies. Your mission should be to INCLUDE your wife in those fantasies. I guarantee you that once you both get down to the core issues you may or may not have discussed, your connection and intimacy will blossom. The bottom line is that open, honest, and thorough communication can only strengthen your bonds. Once you get over your individual frailties, fears and inhibitions, your candor, honesty and sincerity will prevail.
In fact, once she sees that you are OK with chatting openly about anything, she feel secure in doing the same. Who knows? Maybe she shares some of your fantasies, fears, or issues and you can talk about it together.
And, not all of your conversations need be deep or vulnerable. Sometimes just the quantity of your communication will be enough to make her feel secure with you and open up to you more emotionally AND sexually. After all, she talks to her girl friends non-stop. Just because you don’t want to hear about all that crap, doesn’t mean she wouldn’t tell you. Get her to open up by opening up yourself, first. You will be amazed at the fire you will accelerate in her loins by becoming her best friend. You have NOTHING to lose and a hot wife to gain!
For more tips on making your wife hot, visit www.makeyourwifehot.com and check into this blog every few days. My wife wasn’t always the hottest woman in the room…but she is now. Yours can be too!
July 1, 2009 at 12:55 pm
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